Survey For Moms
1. When was the last time you gave your husband a specific compliment?
2. What did he do to deserve the compliment?
3. What did you say to him?
4. When was the last time you did something romantic or special for him that did not involve your child(ren)?
5. What did you do for him?
* Please no comments about what your husband has not or did not do for you. I’m conducting this survey to see whether or not it will support a conclusion from a previous survey I conducted with another group of moms.
A little more about Jesse and me.
I've been a stay-at-home dad for 15 years. In my spare time, I've conducted open discussion group for fathers and mothers at hospitals, family resource centers, churches and other family oriented organizations (1992 to present). I’ve also appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show, ABC’s Father and Sons Documentary, NBC’s The Other Half and Unsung Heroes.
Jesse Jayne Rutherford has prepared written materials for the United States Department of Justice and is the primary author of Save the Date: A Curriculum for Teens on Developing Healthy Dating Relationships, developed with a team of psychologists, educational experts, and statisticians, which has been used in numerous Orange County high schools and will be released nationwide in 2007. She is also the primary author of a handbook for mandated reporters of child abuse called Speaking Up: How to Help the Children You Work with Who Live in Abusive Homes. She lives in San Diego County with her husband, professional musician Enrique Platas, and their daughter, Sophia.
2. What did he do to deserve the compliment?
3. What did you say to him?
4. When was the last time you did something romantic or special for him that did not involve your child(ren)?
5. What did you do for him?
* Please no comments about what your husband has not or did not do for you. I’m conducting this survey to see whether or not it will support a conclusion from a previous survey I conducted with another group of moms.
A little more about Jesse and me.
I've been a stay-at-home dad for 15 years. In my spare time, I've conducted open discussion group for fathers and mothers at hospitals, family resource centers, churches and other family oriented organizations (1992 to present). I’ve also appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show, ABC’s Father and Sons Documentary, NBC’s The Other Half and Unsung Heroes.
Jesse Jayne Rutherford has prepared written materials for the United States Department of Justice and is the primary author of Save the Date: A Curriculum for Teens on Developing Healthy Dating Relationships, developed with a team of psychologists, educational experts, and statisticians, which has been used in numerous Orange County high schools and will be released nationwide in 2007. She is also the primary author of a handbook for mandated reporters of child abuse called Speaking Up: How to Help the Children You Work with Who Live in Abusive Homes. She lives in San Diego County with her husband, professional musician Enrique Platas, and their daughter, Sophia.
posted by Hogan at
9:37 AM
3 Comments:
Today. I told him he looked handsome. Now, I try to remember to say something positive everyday. Does not always happen sadly...
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crazymumma, at 5:00 PM
1. When was the last time you gave your husband a specific compliment?
Today, and Sunday...I made sure to say Thank You, and what it was for, and how much what he had done ment to me. Also, I do often compliment on his phsical person, but these seem to have little or no affect on him.
2. What did he do to deserve the compliment? He was extremely helpful and patient during a hetic weekend. I did not have to ask for this help.
3. What did you say to him? I Let him know that I noticed. I let him know that I was very grateful.
4. When was the last time you did something romantic or special for him that did not involve your child(ren)? The last time was Father's day. (Romantic for him) I do try to make him dinners that I knows he likes, even if the chidren do not so much. This is a big deal to him. I hardly ever cooked dinner for us before we had kids, and now, I usually make kid friendly meals. So any meal that I make JUST for HIM seems to get rave responses.
5. What did you do for him? The romantic thing involved UHHH...bedroom things. So I am not saying.
He does not seem to respond as well to afirmation. Why is that? He likes the house reasonably clean, a good dinner, and occasional romance...But I feel as if there should be something more. He likes gifts...but I just can't tell how much.
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Dapoppins, at 7:46 PM
I compliment my husband daily, atleast once a day. And do something special for him at every opportunity. Just taking an interest and pretending to watch a football game with him is all it takes sometimes... UGH. He is so deserving and amazing on several counts. 1) He is a good man 2) He is living with a pre-menopausal wife 3) 11 years ago I had back surgery that went horribly bad and he has stayed with me. 4) He is a great Dad and Grandpa. Now he has to do many of the things that I used to do. #'s 2 & 3 have also affected our love life. Where we used to make love 5 x a week we are down to once a week but he doesn't complain... to me. We recently celebrated 20 years of marriage. I adore this man and I know the feeling is mutual. I lived in 2 abuse relationships many years ago so I have been on the other side of the fence.
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Mishy, at 10:00 AM
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